I had a convo with someone earlier today (or yesterday actually) and later I was kind of musing on twitter about this. I won’t call it a rant ‘cos I wasn’t just telling everybody what I thought, I really wanted answers and I wasn’t getting them. So maybe you guys can help…
What I want to know is, do you feel like a person should be only one kind of person? Quiet or loud, shy or confident, scared or brave? That a person cannot be both?
I’m melancholic see. (If you don’t know what melancholic means please click THIS link to read about the temperaments. Please it won’t take long, just brief yourself before I go on). So I’m melancholic, and that means, I have mood swings. I’m excited and happy one minute and then in the next second, I’m down in the dumps, as they say. Over the years, I’ve learned to sort of control it in a way that I’m always happy around people. It helps that I’m also strongly sanguine (again, just click that link) and so it’s not really difficult but sometimes it is.
I’ve realized that my friends can’t deal with me when I’m not my ‘usual’ jovial self. If I come to class and I’m a bit quieter than usual, not talking a lot, or I’m not laughing at stuff. Everybody assumes there’s something wrong. That I’m sick or depressed or something. Look, even if I am depressed or whatever, don’t I deserve an off day? Do I have to be the, me YOU want all the time? Can I just be me? I can’t seem to get people to understand that this is just another side of me. Do I have to be just loud? Can I not be quiet too? I hardly am but still…
Anyway, so there’s the question. Should a person be only one kind of person? Or can they change?
I asked it in another way on twitter… if you met me in real life and on that day, I wasn’t as ‘chatty’ as I am online. Would you feel cheated?
Help me out here. Let’s start this discussion. I really want to know what you guys think.